Really well written. The seatbelt chime metaphor was excellent.
I think that’s why “just let it go” can feel so frustrating sometimes, the brain usually keeps replaying something because, rightly or wrongly, it still believes something unresolved or uncertain matters.
Thanks for saying that. And I agree. When our brains tell us something, it’s for a reason. It’s part of its programming. It’s on us to do our best to understand our brain’s language.
I find it gets easier with practice to let go. I think I'm the one who encouraged my husband to be curious about why he's holding onto something that's hurting him.
As a life coach I learned that my clients are whole and complete and never use the words "you have to."
I intentionally chose "detachment" as my 2025 goal, seeing how I could free myself by learning to strengthen that skill. I also really enjoyed the book from Joseph Nguyen, "Don't Believe Everything You Think." Practicing meditation with Waking Up reminds me that a thought is just a thought.
And if a thought persists, I try to share it, say it out loud, or write it down. And sometimes just that helps me move forward with it.
Thanks for sharing, Nina. I too subscribe to the notion that a thought is just a thought. I teach that it’s an information signal from a brain trying to help me because my brain is always trying to help me. It’s just that sometimes the information isn’t helpful because my brain has been programmed with unhelpful information or it is overpredicting a threat.
Wow, this is so relatable. For year's I've been wondering, how do you let go. It sounds so easy, everyone says it's what finally shifted things for them. But I never understood what it actually means.
Lately I'm getting an understanding about it. In my understanding it's not really something you do, but something you feel. I love that you said be curious about it, that opens up other possibilities to the meaning "let go".
It’s not something you do, but something you feel—I like that. So true. Letting go is the result of other things you have done—self-reflection, therapy, healing old wounds—not something you do in and of itself. And it’s a feeling you get that lets you know you have started to let go.
Well Alex, that song made me cry.
Such an emotional powerhouse of a song, right?
Really well written. The seatbelt chime metaphor was excellent.
I think that’s why “just let it go” can feel so frustrating sometimes, the brain usually keeps replaying something because, rightly or wrongly, it still believes something unresolved or uncertain matters.
Thanks for saying that. And I agree. When our brains tell us something, it’s for a reason. It’s part of its programming. It’s on us to do our best to understand our brain’s language.
I find it gets easier with practice to let go. I think I'm the one who encouraged my husband to be curious about why he's holding onto something that's hurting him.
As a life coach I learned that my clients are whole and complete and never use the words "you have to."
I intentionally chose "detachment" as my 2025 goal, seeing how I could free myself by learning to strengthen that skill. I also really enjoyed the book from Joseph Nguyen, "Don't Believe Everything You Think." Practicing meditation with Waking Up reminds me that a thought is just a thought.
And if a thought persists, I try to share it, say it out loud, or write it down. And sometimes just that helps me move forward with it.
Thanks for sharing, Nina. I too subscribe to the notion that a thought is just a thought. I teach that it’s an information signal from a brain trying to help me because my brain is always trying to help me. It’s just that sometimes the information isn’t helpful because my brain has been programmed with unhelpful information or it is overpredicting a threat.
Wow, this is so relatable. For year's I've been wondering, how do you let go. It sounds so easy, everyone says it's what finally shifted things for them. But I never understood what it actually means.
Lately I'm getting an understanding about it. In my understanding it's not really something you do, but something you feel. I love that you said be curious about it, that opens up other possibilities to the meaning "let go".
It’s not something you do, but something you feel—I like that. So true. Letting go is the result of other things you have done—self-reflection, therapy, healing old wounds—not something you do in and of itself. And it’s a feeling you get that lets you know you have started to let go.
Yes exactly, and I was always trying to understand it with my mind, but that way it's something you understand with your body and feel it .✨
Hey — I came across your writing and really liked how you think.
I’m exploring something similar from a different angle — writing about human behavior through a system design lens (like debugging internal patterns).
Just started publishing on Substack. If you ever get a moment to read, I’d genuinely value your perspective.
Also happy to support your work — feels like there’s an interesting overlap here.